5 Things I Learned This Christmas
Christmas means something different to everyone, but a common theme exists among many. It starts off chaotically as everyone scrambles to tie up loose ends at work, rushes to buy and wrap gifts, stresses over Christmas plans, then regrets the food, drinks, and arguments at the dinner table. As stressful or as enjoyable it might be, we have convinced ourselves that Christmas is the ultimate climax that completes the year. We have become so blinded by all the noise and expectations that we have forgotten that Christmas is about celebrating life. We dismiss the value of the ritual once embedded in the Christmas spirit. We get caught up in consumerism and social obligations instead of the meaning behind this holiday and the opportunity it provides to give of ourselves and be thankful for the gifts that are present in our lives.
For many years I have tried to focus on the basics of Christmas: decorating the tree, planning a special meal, and being thoughtful in my gift-giving. I like to keep it simple and quiet. This year I spent the weekend thinking about what Christmas means and took the time to notice all the little miracles happening around me. When we stop and pay attention to the little things, we find meaning beneath all the noise.
Here are five things I learned this Christmas:
It’s Okay to Spend Christmas Alone
I spent Christmas with my dog this year. I love my dog, but it was difficult being alone. It was my third Christmas at home without family and friends around. I ate a meal delivery kit for Christmas dinner and talked to my mom over the phone on Christmas Eve. Although it was the quietest Christmas I have ever had, I didn’t have to get dressed up, drive through a snowstorm or wait in an airport, nor sit at a Christmas meal for hours and overeat. I didn’t have to navigate all the family quirks and quacks. I put my PJs on, watched Scrooge (1951), and took my dog for a walk. The best part is that I had time to reflect on the meaning of Christmas.
Forgiveness Means Having a Deeper Understanding of Pain
I spent Christmas thinking about the past and moving through some old feelings. I faced a situation that called me to forgive on Christmas Eve. I am no longer holding the pain and the fear of the choices I made in the past. You know that you have let go and are prepared to forgive when your pain no longer defines you. The trials and tribulations of the past are a darkness you must face in the light. Forgiveness heals.
People Complicate What They Fear
People fear what they feel helpless to control. Control makes things complicated. It skews the truth and ironically creates chaos and divisiveness. Walk through fear. It’s easier on the other side. Fear is an opportunity to rise and be free.
Choose Yourself or You Cannot Be Fully Present for Others
Live life on your terms. Each year is an opportunity to evaluate what makes you feel alive. Don’t settle for less. Choose a righteous path that rewards you with strength and resilience. Don’t allow others to dictate how you will live. Become more aligned in your heart.
Stand Tall
Stand up for what is right. Don’t heed the advice of those who cannot rise above fear. Honor your intuition. You know when you are doing the right thing. Act with love. We need more individuals that are willing to be brave.
S. Angell is a published poet, writer, philosopher, video blogger, and preschool teacher by day. She explores an array of topics including love, life, death, history, and society from a philosophical perspective. You can find her on Instagram @therainydaypoetess or TheRainyDayPoet.com
